That title, of course, is click bait.
There’s no such thing has a friendzone. Friendship isn’t a zone. Friendship is something real and precious and someone who doesn’t understand that needs a dictionary. Honestly, I’d love to be friendzoned by my crush. Then my crush would actually remember I exist.
But hey, being rejected can really suck. I get that. Especially since it probably took all your guts to tell that person how you really feel. And you’re probably crying in your room thinking, “Why? Why doesn’t she like me back? Why does life hate me? Why are gas prices getting higher?”
Don’t worry. It’ll take a while, but you’ll get over it. And she/he’ll remain your friend – and guess what? That’ll be freaking awesome! Here’s why:
It means she/he trusts you.
When she/he says, “I love you, just not that way. You’re more like a sister to me,” that can seem like a big fat NO. But it’s not! Take a look at what’s said. She/he still loves you, just not in the way you want them to. And then she/he considers you like a sister – that’s probably the highest compliment of friendship there is! (Unless you’re a guy. Well then, I’m sorry, bro.)
In order to love someone, whether that be in a friendship way or a romantic way, you have to trust them as well. If she/he considers you a friend, that means she/he sees you as someone to trust, someone to tell secrets to, someone to hang out with and someone to enjoy the company of. I don’t know about you, but that sounds pretty damn awesome to me.
It means you can understand a no.
Two things can happen after your friend rejects you: one, you never speak to him/her again and you let your friendship go after a silly rejection, or two, you stay friends and move on from what happened.
If it’s number two, give yourself a pat in the back. That means you understand a no.
Look, she/he’s human. Just like you. And some day, you’ll be in their position too, and you’ll want that person to understand when you say no. It should be everyone’s right to say no, and it’s a sign of respect if you respect that right. No is a complete sentence.
(You can ask Meghan Trainor about that. She knows all about it.)
You guys can still go on dates.
Movies. Coffee. Amusement parks. Who says those things are only for couples?
Part of the reason why you want to date a person is because you want to spend more time with him/her. Hey, you can still do that! Sure, it’ll be awkward at first, but if you manage to get past that, it’ll be worth it.
The best part is, you don’t have to worry about all that romantic stuff. You don’t worry about impressing each other, about sending signals, and about making sure you’re not being too forward. You’re going to have a ton of fun. Which leads me to my next point:
Sometimes, friendships are even more fun than relationships.
It’s kind of the truth. Some things are just better with a best friend and not a boyfriend. Like what was mentioned in the previous paragraph, you don’t have to worry about the romantic stuff! You could be yourself and just have fun, no repercussions attached.
And even if that’s not the case, you can’t deny that they can be equally as fun. Making memories and enjoying each other’s company can be done, whether you’re in a relationship or a friendship.
Friendship isn’t just something that’s freely given.
Friendship is a tough word. It seems easy to think that it’s not, and that everyone we meet and talk to is our friend, but deep down, we all know that’s not true. There’s so much we have to go through before we call someone our friend and feel completely at ease with it, with the comfort of knowing it’s the truth.
So if someone is comfortable enough to call you their friend, don’t take that lightly. Appreciate that will all your might. Friendship is a great thing, it really is. It’s one of those things that isn’t necessary for survival, but necessary for living. So hold your head up high, you lucky bastard. Because you’re a friend.