So here’s the thing.
Being yourself is a phrase that’s been beaten to death. Everyone tells you to do this. It’s the number one piece of advice that’s given to you when you’re nervous about something. You’ve seen it on posters, on books, on Tumblr. And all this kind of makes you think being yourself is easy, right?
Well, turns out it’s not. Turns out, it’s one of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do. A harsh reality of life.
And this is because being yourself isn’t a one time thing. It’s so easy to think it is. That all we need to do is decide one day not to care about what other people think and just be ourselves.
But no – being yourself is something that you have to choose every day. And it’s not just in your attitude. You do it in every decision you make. Sometimes, this is easy. Deciding what you want to eat, what you want to watch, what you want to listen to – these are all still being yourself, yet they don’t have much consequences.
Then there are the tough decisions. The decision in which you have to choose between two roads – the smoothest course, steady as the beating drum…or the one that’s truer to who you are.
People won’t agree with you. The circumstances will be against you. You’ll even doubt yourself.
And it’s so easy and so tempting to choose the smooth one. The choice that everyone makes, the conventional one. The one that goes against who you are. You might even choose this choice. And you’ll fake it for a while. But if you’ve been yourself for a long time…one day you’ll give up and you just can’t do it anymore.
So yeah, being yourself is kind of a bummer. You’d think it was the easiest thing in the world.
But hey, it’s worth it.
It’s worth it because your true self will always shine through. It’s worth it because you’ll never find happiness being somebody else. It’s worth it because you’ll never be a better person if you don’t accept who you are now. And it’s worth it because it’s your life. You’re the one who’s dealing with the consequences. It’s worth it because nobody else should be more important to you than you.
Most importantly, it’s worth it because a life where you can’t be yourself isn’t.
“Be yourself.” It’s something they tell you all the time. But they never tell you how hard it is. But they do tell you how rewarding it is. And they get that part right.